Why Other People’s Negative Opinions Shouldn’t Affect your Ambitions.
Updated: Jun 8, 2020
Cousins - “You’re still living in a dream world Zee”
Uncles - “You’re too ambitious, the real world is different”
Friends- “Here we go again, he is going to start talking about his business ideas.”
These are the things I grew up hearing, as I was the kid who always had big dreams and ambitions, bigger than anyone among my friends and families.
Question for you - Do you want to be so successful that when you think of success you tear up from the burning desire?
Well I do. I know it’s weird. But it’s true.
This blog isn’t about my goals and ambitions, or how I am a great chicken curry artist (fact btw). It’s about how they don’t get affected with other people’s opinions.
I’ve always had crazy big dreams since I was a kid. People like Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, famous movie stars, basically anyone who’s at the top always inspired me. I would wonder how did they get to the top? Out of billions of people how do they get known, what impact did they have on the society, that they achieved that level of recognition.
Here’s where it gets interesting.
I’d read the stories of these people, and still till date, I say I can be that too. I will get to the top. I will be the best business man the world has ever seen. Not even with a single doubt or confusion. Just like I am laying it out to you now. Cause why not? It holds me accountable if I do.
I don’t like to generalize, but it’s very unlikely that most people feel the same way too. Relating to my small sample of research with the people I know, most would say - “I can never become that. I don’t know how they did it.”
Well then, why don’t you work on finding out how they did it? But only if you want it. Ask yourself, who do you want to become? Who do you want to be known as? Then study the people who are the most successful in that genre. How did they get to where they are?
Why do I say that? Because that’s how you become unshakeable with your dreams, ambitions and goals. It’s only when you find out who and what you want to become that other people’s opinions don’t matter anymore. Because now you have your eyes on the prize and you've already started working on how you’ll win it.
Once you know where you want to get to, the next most important thing to do is believe in yourself that you can make it. No matter how crazy your goals are, you can make it. Period. If you can’t believe in yourself in the first place, how do you expect other people to believe in you?
When I share with people who I want to become, some applaud it, some can’t fathom how big my aspirations are and try to relate it in their level. To the people who appreciate, thanks to them, because it takes a huge heart and an open mind to accept what you can’t comprehend. Let’s talk about the people who cant comprehend and don’t accept or respect your aim in life.
Or will it just be a waste of time talking about them? ;)
How do I react to their negative opinions? I listen. I know that after the conversation is over, my purpose in life is still the same. An average person with mediocre ambitions will always share their story of how they couldn’t do it and will warn you that you need to get real. Well, do I want to be like them? No, but I listen to what they didn’t do, so I do it and prevent myself from becoming them. That’s free research. Sounds judgemental, but if someone is judging you for wanting to be extremely successful then you have the right to judge them equally too.
Everyone has their own unique ambitions. No one will ever be able to relate to the depth of desire that you have to achieve your own dreams. Because it’s not their dream in the first place. But listen to people, it gives you perspective and knowledge, you don’t have to act on every single thing they say.
Say your ambitions out loud. You need to hold yourself accountable first. Bill Gates scooped out 72 billion dollars from the economy. Doesn’t that sound freakin’ crazy? But he made it possible. What seems crazy to you, but you know you can make it possible?
I know where I need to get to. And so should you. If you don’t, you’re wasting time. The cliché phrase you need to know your purpose is true. Know your purpose and get granular with it. Then work it out backwards so you know what’s the first step you need to take.
I eventually want to give away the wealth and money I accumulate within the span of my life to help a lot of people in this world especially the orphans. That’s my purpose. So I worked backwards to find out how I am going to create wealth and make lots of money. I keep finessing that plan with the knowledge I acquire everyday. What’s your purpose?
It takes guts to believe in yourself to the point that nothing can affect but motivate and inspire you. If you aren’t there yet, train yourself. Believe in yourself that you can make it. Next step is to work for it. If you don’t follow up with the second one, you become the kid with vague dreams.
I follow up with my purpose by taking actions every day. We only read stories of people once they make it. No one showcases the journey to the top. That’s the most interesting part.
So I thought, I showcase my journey and share it with you, where you watch me working towards what I promised to myself, hoping it inspires you too. You’ll get to see all my ups and downs first hand and my strategies that I use to get what I want. I’d like you to be a part of my journey where in ten years I can tell you - Hey remember I said this in my blog? Guess what …
Be unshakeable folks!